“Boyfriend” in many relationships has replaced “husband.” Even though in his twenties or older, he is a “boy.” The word “boy” suits the person who enjoys the sexual pleasures of a female companion apart from marriage. Marriage is the commitment to provide for her, provide for a child who may be conceived, and give of himself exclusively for her emotional security in a life-long relationship. As long as he cannot make this commitment, he is a self-centered “boy.” The woman who makes the male companion wait with sex until marriage helps him to become a man; otherwise she confirms him to remain a “boy.”
The commitment of marriage helps a boy to become a man. When husbands “love their wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her” (Ephesians 5), then they become real men. We husbands never fully attain that status, but in trusting Christ and His forgiveness, we grow toward the goal of becoming “real men.” But without the public commitment of marriage boys remain “boys.” Sunday service time at Peace Lutheran Church is 9:00 a.m.